Wednesday 17 January 2018

The same but different

It's been well over a year since I last posted on here which is a new record for me! Truth be told I just haven't felt like it. I think I became a bit disillusioned with the whole thing and I wasn't comfortable with where it might end up if I continued writing whilst not really 'feeling it'. I'd made a promise not to write unless I wanted to/felt the need and yet I'd still end up putting pressure on myself to post as the blog became more widely read. Had I carried on with this I think it may have  affected its integrity and real purpose. So, there you have it and that's enough of that – now onto the the return of Little Budlington :)

Well, as you know a year is a very long time in a child's development and Rosie is no exception to this. She has come on leaps and bounds and whilst she's still our same little Rosie she is also so very different to a year ago and different in the most positive of ways. Hitting out and smacking has almost become a thing of the past and she communicates verbally so much better now which I think has played a big factor in this change.

There have been big changes also for Rosie at school where she is now in Year 1 with a new teacher and a different 'one-to-one' arrangement. We are eternally grateful for everything the teaching staff have done for her in Reception – without their structured approach to working with Rosie I can confidently say that she wouldn't be at the stage she is now. They provided Rosie with an essential base from which she is now steadily building on.

We were initially concerned about how she would deal with the change as she was so settled in Reception. She was now faced with the daunting prospect of a new and bigger class, a different classroom with a new teacher and two new one-to-one's (who all do a brilliant job). Thankfully she has (and not for the first time) surprised us by adapting really well – we haven't had any kicking and screaming episodes with refusals to go into school, I guess that might come in her teens?!

Things have been progressing so well to the point that she's recently started to line-up with the rest of her class and walk herself into the classroom without any assistance – a clear sign of independence but also that she is happy in school which is very reassuring for us.

It's also reassuring for me to see Rosie adapting so well. Knowing she will have to face many changes to routines and situations in life moving forward – getting her used to this from an early age will do her no harm at all.

As you'll see from the images below Rosie loves bringing reading books home and learning to recognise words, she's not at a stage of being able to read full sentences yet but that isn't a concern, we're pleased she is happy to sit down (relatively still!) and browse through books at all – the rest will  follow in her own time – nothing new there!

I've also included a couple of pics from a special day for our whole family back in November when we were invited to Buckingham Palace by HRH The Countess of Wessex to celebrate Mencap's 70th anniversary. Sadly we aren't allowed to show the images from the Royal photographer on a public forum so I've included a couple from outside where we had the chance to get a couple of snaps with friends Sarah Gordy and 'Super Seb'.


  1. So great to see you writing again Tom, and sharing some lovely pics! Rosie is coming on in leaps and bounds. Love from us all.

  2. Glad to hear all the news. Rosie is doing so well. Lots of love x

  3. Glad to hear what amazing progress Rosie is making, Tom. Lots of love x

  4. Lovely post Tom. So nice to see how things are going for Rosie. She is doing brilliantly. Lovely photos of you hanging out with Royalty! 😉

  5. Amazing photos. Wonderful to see Rosie doing so well in her new class. Growing up so fast. Lovely to chat with Rosie around school. So proud to see Rosie doing so well and happy.

  6. Lovely to see the development and you looking so smart 😄

  7. Please continue to write about your beautiful daughter! I've been following this since our daughter was born in 09 with DS and I Look to it randomly and occasionally for good provides so much hope that it is truly invaluable and I want to thank you for all the time that you've invested writing and sharing with courage and honest emotion. I guarantee that there are many people who do the same and just don't say so. I totally respect and get the times that you don't write and I just want to encourage you to continue to do so, please, as it never ceases to be a blessing!

  8. Something I learned after adopting a daughter at age 8 from foster care. Who had at least one birth sibling who had disabilities. I had three boys. Knew nothing about girls, girly things. When I would start to blame her problems on her genetics, my best friend, mother of three girls, oh, no Candy. That is just a girl thing. Mine went through the same stages. It’s not a disability, its just girls. So, remember that. If you also did not have a girl reference to compare to.